Expect dating recovering alcoholic
Everyone is in the lifelong process of discovering who they are.
A recovering alcoholic has already made some significant progress in this process and is coming to grips with the truth of the situation.
You might mention something now and then about their behavior being a bit odd, but are easily appeased with their answer and things usually get back to normal..a time.
Phase 2 - You are aware that what felt unsettling in Phase 1 is becoming more consistent and hard to just slough off as a bad day at the office or losing a football game.
A recovery plan is just that -- a plan for ones in recovery to incorporate doable, realistic goals AND consequences for falling short of those goals.
The parent, spouse, family member or friend (if involved with their loved ones recovery) that does not insist upon a structure or plan, versus leaving it all up to the alcoholic/addict's judgment and hoping that everything will work out with a few well intended ideas, is vastly irresponsible.
Though you don't want to be a babysitter to the alcoholic/addict, if your life is involved with theirs, a plan represents important boundaries and guidelines and will in turn develop a mutual respect.While it may be fun now, it is getting worrying...will it slow down. It is no fun to be involved in a relationship with an alcoholic.You start to wonder whether your date has a drinking problem or worse, is an alcoholic. It is better to know before you get too involved, whether your prospective partner is drink dependent. If you think that you may be dating an alcoholic then there are certain signs that you can look for in their behavior. Yes, in an ideal world you would say thank you but no thank you.Oddly enough, I could usually laugh it off and blame the booze or call a friend with looser morals than myself and use them as my moral compass to feel okay with my behavior.That all eventually stopped working and I was just left hating myself for my bad decisions and inability to address my drinking problem and make a change.